Overcome the emotional, mental, psychological and social aspects of your sexual dysfunction. Regain your confidence, self esteem and overcome your depression and the sense of isolation. Overcome feeling undesired and undesirable and rediscover your intimacy.

When pleasure comes loaded with pain … and guilt … and anxiety …

Few ever consider that sex is anything other than an activity that brings pleasure. For many there is the assumption that when the opportunity arises, being able to have sex happens naturally.

It can come as some surprise when one day that is no longer the case; when what used to happen automatically and easily, either becomes a struggle and a chore or does not happen at all.

There are many aspects to sexual dysfunction, both at an emotional, psychological and physical level. Whatever the causes, sexual dysfunction can leave you feeling unhappy, unfulfilled, depressed and isolated. It affects your self esteem, your sense of identity, your relationships and your ability to share this most basic of needs and desires. It can and does have a profound effect upon the overall quality of your life.

Loss of Libido

Loss of libido can either occur quickly or it can be a gradually declining process. It can manifest itself in many ways, as a result of situations and experiences or as part of a medical condition.

The effects upon you and your relationship can become problematic. Conflicts and tension can arise between yourself and your partner. Sometimes the issues might be a matter of trust; past affairs, or damaging relationships that remain a background worry. Perhaps your sex life has become too mundane or unimaginative, or simply that your sex drive is different to that of your partner.

Whatever the underlying issue, the loss of libido can result in thoughts and feelings that leave you feeling unsatisfied and at times undesirable and undesired. Negative thoughts and emotions, frustrations and conflicts can and do arise when these issues are left unresolved.

I’m not in the mood …

Modern life presents modern stresses. When once intimacy was the pleasure that was the release from stress, it has now become the thing that itself is stressful. There is so much going on, so many worries that arousal itself has become the issue. ‘I’m too tired’, ‘I just want to sleep’ are sometimes symptoms of an underlying issue. Other times, the desire to have sex is tempered by your body’s inability to perform in the way you want it to.

The lack of an erection in men, lack of lubrication in women, that makes the act of sex difficult, painful and emotionally charged. When sex itself becomes a battleground of negative emotions, frustrations and resentments, both relationships and self confidence suffer.

You may find yourself shy away from even the slightest thought of intimacy – even a simple kiss comes with a negative charge, as it can lead to the thought and fear of ‘what comes next’.

Other times the expectation that you need to ‘perform’ and then not being able to, can leave you feeling like a failure. What was once a positive, fulfilling and important part of your life has now become the part of your life that you dread the most. Sometimes you don’t even know why you are not in the mood. It just doesn’t seem to happen any more. You can feel guilty that you are letting your partner down, or perhaps you feel inadequate that you cannot satisfy them and you don’t know how to fix the problem.

Premature Ejaculation

Premature Ejaculation can have a profound and lasting effect upon your sense of confidence and well being. It can lead to feelings of frustration and insecurity as well as feelings of isolation and loneliness.

As someone who suffers from PE, you may feel withdrawn from your partner and unable to communicate your thoughts and perhaps you carry around feelings of hurt and disappointment for them, as well as for yourself. It could lead you to isolate yourself from intimate relationships and if it continues for long periods it can trigger longer term psychological issues.

Criticism of past sexual encounters can leave their mark and past thoughtless words and actions can leave you feeling vulnerable and hurt. You may see your ability to ‘perform’ as just that; a test of your manhood and your virility. Past failures become magnified until they become the yardstick by which you measure yourself ‘Next time will be better…next time must be better’ until there is no next time as the fear of failure becomes so unbearable that sex is rejected by you - just as you feel let down and rejected by sex.

A partner’s perspective

Sometimes coping with a partner who has sexual dysfunction can be very difficult. At times you focus all your efforts on supporting your partner, on helping them get through their own issues, yet at the same time you also have your own needs, wants and desires. Often you put these into the background and suppress your own thoughts and feelings.

You may have sexual needs and desires that they cannot meet and this leaves you frustrated at many levels. How do you feel sexy when no one desires you?

How are you supposed to cope when you feel insecure and inadequate and what do you do with your feelings of sadness, loneliness and rejection?

You know that your partner still loves you and they are not cheating on you. You don’t want to hurt your partner’s feelings, to create added tension nor heap more pressure on them, yet no matter how understanding you are, you feel unfulfilled and frustrated – feelings that come loaded with guilt that at times can seem unbearable.

Sometimes you may feel that you want to leave, other times that an affair or external relationship will help, or might even be the answer to your problems. What might have started as a temporary mismatched libido has now become a big conflict in your relationship.

Repressing your own libido is not the answer to these issues. Resolving your frustrations and your issues surrounding self esteem, insecurities and self worth can go a long way to helping you resolve your part in this relationship conflict.

Abuse; the shadows of past events ...

Past negative experience can often have a profound affect upon both desire and arousal. Rape and abuse often leave you feeling fearful of others, at both an emotional and physical level. The fear of being intimate, of being hurt again can trigger emotional reactions that make even the thought of sex impossible.

Even when the situation seems right and everything appears OK, the underlying fears and anxieties that you have can trigger reactions that leave you scared, sometimes terrified and often unable to move on from past events. The feelings of isolation, of having to explain to your partner why you cannot be intimate leaves you feeling isolated, vulnerable and cut off from the very person closest to you. Often there are feelings of guilt and anger towards both them and yourself.

This can become so severe that even the thought of sexual encounters leaves you fearful and angry and you withdraw from peoples and situations that once you would have enjoyed.

Change your life today … Live, don’t just survive

At The Naked Gene Juggler, we offer a unique, discrete and supportive service to help you with the emotional, mental, psychological and social aspects that contribute to sexual dysfunction.

We can help you resolve the root causes of these aspects whilst at the same time helping you deal with the day to day impact of sexual dysfunction upon the quality of your life.

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