Break free from the trauma of male rape. Liberate yourself from the memories of your ‘rape movie’ and your feelings of shame, degradation and humiliation. Overcome the shock, trauma and social stigma of being a man raped by a woman or a straight man raped by a gay man.
Read a client's personal story of Male Rape
Male Rape, a crime of Violence
Male rape is a crime of violence and control, driven by the need of the perpetrator(s) to exert their will over you.
Often they are known to you, perhaps as friends of family members, a fact that makes the events surrounding your rape seem more difficult to cope with. There are so many unanswered questions and thoughts that leave you barely coping; Why me? Was it my fault? Why didn't I see it coming? If only...
It is often the case that men live with the effects of rape and sexual abuse for many years. It seems to take a triggering event or a crisis for the person to realise they need to resolve their issues surrounding the rape.
When you are raped, the effects can be severe. There is the profound sense of shame, of degradation and humiliation. Self image, self respect and identity can be utterly destroyed.
It can leave you with almost uncontrollable feelings of anger towards others and more often than not, feelings of hatred and loathing directed towards yourself. You can feel insecure and struggle to form and keep relationships. Even when you are in a relationship you can have the profound sense of
isolation, of being cut off from your ‘real’ self.
The sense of being damaged and violated, of being dirty and soiled can drive you to self harm, to alcohol and drugs and trigger thoughts of suicide. If you experienced an erection, or ejaculated during the rape, there can be the added confusion of thoughts surrounding you ‘wanting it’, of enjoying the act.
You may even doubt your sexuality; ‘maybe I’m gay?’ thoughts that make the rape even more difficult to cope with and understand.
Rape does not have to be a living death sentence. Release yourself from the conflicts surrounding your rape. Find out how by visiting ourconsulting website, orcontact ustoday to book your consultation.
Women can also be abusers...
There it also the other aspect of male abuse.
Women do abuse men
Emotional blackmail and threats of violence are used as the means to facilitate the sex act, leaving the man feeling powerless and violated, often emotionally and physically. Many thoughts can go through your mind; who would believe me? People will laugh at me, it’s a sexual fantasy isn’t it - to
be held down and ‘raped’ by a dominant woman?
Fantasy often bears little relationship to reality and living with the effects of rape is at times unbearable.
Live your reality, not someone else’s fantasy. Free yourself and regain control. Find out how by visiting ourconsulting website, orcontact ustoday to book your consultation.
A Gay man raped me...
It was utterly shocking and unexpected and you cannot cope. You had heard of gay rape before, but you’re not gay, so you thought that it would never happen to you... Yet you were raped by a Gay man.
‘Maybe he knew something about me that I didn’t, ‘Maybe I am Gay?’ ‘He knew I’m straight’
You have so many thoughts and emotions running through your head that it feels like it will never stop spinning. You don’t understand how it happened and you are left with picking up the pieces of your life and you don’t even know
where to turn or how to begin.
‘I am straight, I fancy women', 'it never happened’. You hear yourself saying it. To deny it helps you to cope, but you aren’t coping and every day you seem to cope a little less.
Other people’s actions do not have to create the defining event in your life. . Find out how by visiting ourconsulting website, orcontact ustoday to book your consultation.
Stop the nightmare replaying
Regardless of your gender and your sexuality, rape often leaves you with a traumatic “rape movie” that replays as a vivid and endless nightmare. Thoughts, images, feelings, sounds, smells and sensations associated with your traumatic experience(s)
may never seem to leave you.
The sheer randomness of it all adds to your profound sense of not being in control – you just don’t know when the bad memories are going to be triggered and you know even less about how you are going to react. The sense of anger and frustration at
having to constantly relive your trauma leaves you exhausted at every level.
You can liberate yourself from the clutches of this horror movie. Step into your future free from the burden of always looking over your shoulder. Find out how by visiting ourconsulting website, orcontact ustoday to book your consultation.
Change your life today … Live, don’t just survive
At The Naked Gene Juggler, we offer a unique, discrete and supportive service to help you liberate yourself from the trauma of your rape and free yourself from the clutches of your “rape movie”. We will help you regain your confidence, control and self respect.
We believe that as awful as rape is, and as impossible as it may seem, you can move beyond rape and into a positive future.
We understand that starting the process of recovery may seem daunting, but we will work at a pace suited to you and with the least intrusion into your privacy.
Take the opportunity to be the director of your own life
Tom's Story: Male rape
‘I was abused when I was thirteen. It happened when I was playing on some fields near my home by a teenager about five years older than me. He told me afterwards why he did it. Of course I knew what sex was and I knew what Gays did together, but I remember thinking that I wasn’t gay and he didn’t ‘look Gay’ to me. I remember cycling home and I remember how I felt. I went home and had a shower. I told no one,
what could I say? How would I explain it to anyone?
After time you forget things. When you are young you put things to the back of your mind and you just get on. I was bullied heavily at school and there were many other issues I had to deal with that together pushed this further into the back of my mind. My teenage years were very unhappy ones and I was glad when eventually I moved away and went to college. I got on with life.
When I look back now, I realise that I was a complete emotional mess. So much had happened and I was so angry with everyone and anything. I hated my parents, I hated myself and I felt disgusted by my body and sex caused many emotional conflicts, especially guilt. I felt that I had to punish people and I had a deep need to hurt people emotionally. In my twenties on more than one occasion my moods swings and
depressions took me to the edge of suicide. I don’t know what stopped me, but somehow, each time I was at the edge of madness, I somehow managed to take a step back – act normal and carry on. I had no idea what was going on, I felt that I was an emotional wreck, but on another level I still managed to get on with my life. I had a reasonably successful but unhappy career. I was doing something that paid the bills,
but all the time I remember feeling empty inside. I had a good relationship that meant the world to me, but I constantly felt depressed, like some part of me was always grieving. I could hear a little boy crying but I could never reach him, though I knew he was there and at times hearing him crying in my head was unbearable.
Then one day my life changed. Literally one minute I was fine and the next my world fell apart. All my fears, anger, self loathing, hatred and emotions just spilled out. I had been carrying around this stuff for twenty five years, not telling a soul and then everything just fell out of me. I was in pieces for months. I got some help, but talk therapy only went so far and I was determined that I was not going
to take any tablets for ‘depression’. I found NakedGJ by chance. I was looking for answers to help me put my life back together, mainly after my breakdown to help me with my self confidence at work. It’s funny really, you start down one road, with one objective only to end up on another; in my case where I really needed to go.
I would be lying if I said there is some kind of ‘miracle cure’ in dealing with this stuff. It is not easy. Sometimes dealing with the emotions left me in pieces, but looking back I know now that I was going though a process of grieving, for the boy lost in the fields. But I did find him again. I was able to rediscover and comfort him and take away his sense of abandonment. It was the hardest thing I ever did,
but I needed to do it and I will be for ever grateful that I did, because the hardest feeling in the world is to think that somewhere you abandoned a child and walked away and that is the feeling I carried around for twenty five years’.
I understand myself more. Things are clearer and my sense of perspective has changed. I have been able to put the pieces together, to work out why I used to behave the way I did. I am calmer and more positive and able to deal with my emotions without feeling like I am about to fall apart. My relationship is much stronger. My insecurities and fears that used to get in the way are not there any more and I have
learned to trust myself and others more, something that was never there when I was growing up. I did decide to change my job – to something that I am much better suited to and one that I actually enjoy and in that respect NakedGJ also helped!
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