Break free from the trauma of gay and lesbian rape and liberate yourself from the memories of your ‘rape movie’. End your circular thinking, endless self questioning and your sense of injustice and anger. Overcome your fear, anxiety and worry. Empower yourself and take back control.

Lesbian Rape... the invisible crime

It is a secret crime, one that few know about and even fewer admit to.

Woman-to-woman sexual violence is an almost invisible violation whose origins stem from the denial that women can be sexual predators and perpetrators. Sexual abuse and rape does take place amongst Lesbian and Bisexual women; in stable relationships, in date rape, by women in positions of power, by colleagues, by family members and within abusive relationships.

The denial of Lesbian rape does not stop there. Denial within Lesbian communities makes it even harder to get the support you need. For some, admitting that rape takes place within the community shatters the dream that Lesbian relationships are mutual, non-violent and based on equality.

Rape often causes feelings of confusion, isolation, self doubt and betrayal.

Perhaps you have never spoken of your rape, preferring to ‘forget’ the event and its associated thoughts and emotions. Perhaps it is because you think you will not be believed, or that you fear the spiteful and ignorant comments of a highly judgemental society?

Often it is the overriding sense of humiliation and shame that stops you getting the help you need, or sometimes the fear of further violence. Maybe part of you doesn’t want to ‘make a fuss’ or ‘let down’ the wider Lesbian community by drawing negative attention to it.

Since the rape you might be living in constant fear, ever anxious of people and situations that you feel unsure of.

It might be that you have started to withdraw from women, or that a certain ‘type’ of woman leaves you feeling terrified. Perhaps you have cut yourself off from your social group, your family or other loved ones. You could have started to have sexual problems, fearful of being hurt again. You may feel that you are one step away from a nervous breakdown.

The inner turmoil and the constant emotional trauma never give you a minute peace, never let you rest.

Perhaps you are the kind of person for whom the emotional aspects are not the issue. It’s the questions. Why did they do it? Why me? What did I do wrong? There can be so many unanswered questions and not having the answers you need is slowly driving you to distraction.

I was raped by a man…

Perhaps you were raped by a man who believed that lesbians just need a good man in order to ‘straighten out.’ On top of the trauma of the rape itself you are now having to deal with issues surrounding discrimination and homophobia – you were raped because you are a Lesbian. Who are you going to tell? Do you go to the police? Are you fearful of the judgments? Maybe you have even started to question your sexual identity.

If you have never had sex with a man before, the sense of violation that you feel can easily turn to hatred towards men, or worse, the fear of men. Perhaps you were raped by a man and you have no idea why he raped you. You have so many unanswered questions; why me? And it is the why Questions that keeps spinning in your head. You just can’t find an answer and without the answer you can’t move on.

Regain your confidence and control. Move your life forward and live your life with pride. Find out how by visiting ourconsulting website, orcontact ustoday to book your consultation.

Gay Rape

Gay rape is a traumatic event, made worse by lack of recognition and the myths surrounding being Gay. There is the assumption that being Gay is all about sex and that if a Gay man engages in sexual acts with another man, that it must always be consensual. Many refuse to see the other aspects; the mental, emotional and spiritual side of same sex relationships.

Gay men are the victims of rape at the hands of both gay and straight men. Just because you are a gay man it does not mean you cannot be a rapist, in the same way that it does not exclude you from being raped.

There are many circumstances in which rape can occur. It could be at the hands of a stranger, or with a partner in a perceived ‘safe’ environment. You might have been drugged, threatened or physically or emotionally bullied and coerced into sex. What ever the reasons and circumstances behind the rape, the effects are the same.

‘No one will believe me’…Perhaps the one thing worse than being raped is the fear that when you tell someone, you will not be believed It was brutal, violent and it left you traumatised and fearful of having contracted HIV. After the initial shock and trauma passed, you resolved not to let this event affect your life.

Somehow, you found the strength and courage to put on a brave face. You buried your feelings and went back out and tried to be your old self. It wasn’t easy but somehow you managed it. But however hard you try, life is not the same. Certain men scare you – for no reason you suddenly become terrified of people and places that remind you however slightly of your rape. Since then, your relationships and your sex life is not the same.

During the rape you might have had an erection and now every time you have sex you are reminded of the event. Sex, that was once pleasurable, now leaves you feeling guilty and confused.

The rougher side of sex is now out of bounds as you are fearful that your partner will not stop, that your ‘safe’ word will not be respected. You are constantly looking for the ‘signs’ that it is about to turn violent again.

But it’s the emotional aspects that you also struggle with.

You cannot escape the sense of violation and loss of control.

You felt powerless then and you feel powerless now and you compensate for it by trying to feel and behave differently. At times you have the urge to hit; to be violent. At other times what you want is to sit in a corner and cry and all the time you just want life to get back to the way it was.

You can't turn the clock back but you can liberate yourself from the trauma of rape.

Rediscover who you are and regain your sense of control. Be who you want to be, not the person someone else tried to turn you in to. Find out how by visiting ourconsulting website, orcontact ustoday to book your consultation.

Stop the nightmare replaying

Regardless of your gender and your sexuality, rape often leaves you with a traumatic “rape movie” that replays as a vivid and endless nightmare. Thoughts, images, feelings, sounds, smells and sensations associated with your traumatic experience(s) may never seem to leave you.

The sheer randomness of it all adds to your profound sense of not being in control – you just don’t know when the bad memories are going to be triggered and you know even less about how you are going to react. The sense of anger and frustration at having to constantly relive your trauma leaves you exhausted at every level.

You can liberate yourself from the clutches of this horror movie. Step into your future free from the burden of always looking over your shoulder. Find out how by visiting ourconsulting website, orcontact ustoday to book your consultation.

Change your life today … Live, don’t just survive

At The Naked Gene Juggler, we offer a unique, discrete and supportive service to help you liberate yourself from the trauma of your rape and free yourself from the clutches of your “rape movie”. We will help you regain your confidence, control and self respect.

We believe that as awful as rape is, and as impossible as it may seem, you can move beyond rape and into a positive future.

We understand that starting the process of recovery may seem daunting, but we will work at a pace suited to you and with the least intrusion into your privacy.

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