Overcome the trauma of watching your loved one’s battle with an eating disorder. Regain your own confidence and identity. Rebuild your life and relationships free from depression, anxiety, stress and circular thinking.

Carers - Up close and Personal

Being close to someone going through an eating disorder presents some unique and difficult challenges. It is very tough watching your loved one struggle with food and you can feel ill equipped and unprepared to deal with this situation and all that it brings.

You may feel desperate and isolated or at your “wits end”, not knowing what to do and how best to help. The sense of paralysis that you can feel at times can lead you to doubt your own abilities and skills as a parent, partner, sibling or friend.

You may feel guilt or remorse, that in some way you are responsible for their illness. You may ask yourself “did I cause it?”, “what could I have done differently?”

In the daily battle between your love and a relentless eating disorder, you can feel utterly exhausted.

It can be a huge mental effort to survive, in the knowledge that in all reality tomorrow will be just as difficult as today.

Where did they go?

You may wonder where they have gone – the person you loved became someone very different when they fell under the spell of the eating disorder.

You don’t seem to be able to reach them and it seems that the harder you try, the more distant they become. Your best efforts are rejected and you may experience rage and hatred directed towards you.

Sometimes you may get the “silent treatment”, yet at other times you are the only outlet for their anger and frustrations and it might be difficult not to take it personally.

Is there anybody out there?

You may feel acute frustration at the length of time it takes for any improvement.

You may struggle for information and may feel powerless and helpless in the face of professional support and services that don’t have the same sense of priority and urgency as you do.

You can feel that you are battling this on your own – a silent scream in a world that seems unable to hear.

Love is a battlefield …

Living with an eating disorder can seem like psychological warfare. At times it feels like a battle of wills between you and your loved one, even when you know it is between you and the eating disorder.

Everyone suffers; mentally, emotionally, psychologically and socially as it takes no prisoners in terms of the disruption it causes. Over time as your loved one starts to recover, so starts the process of reconstructing relationships and bonds that may well have become very strained and complex.

As your need for fulltime action, vigilance and the sense of urgency eases off, your own stresses can rise to the surface.

Life beyond the battle

As your loved one recovers and their life stabilises, you can be left with many unresolved feelings, thoughts, worries and anxieties. You may regret the “lost years” and all the difficult decisions you had to make at the time still plague you with guilt.

You may have nightmares and vivid recollections and be haunted by events that never seem to lose their resonance.

You may feel depressed, forever watchful and anxious of any “signs’ of a relapse – which in itself can affect your relationship; a relationship may never have recovered and in which you feel an acute sense of loss.

If you have another child, you may find yourself obsessing over their eating habits, fearful that the same thing will happen to them.

It can seem at times that there is no end in sight, that however much you want life to go on, to continue with some sense of normality, your thoughts, feelings and emotions don’t let it happen.

Rediscover your zest for life free from the impact of your loved one's eating disorder. Find out how by visiting ourconsulting website, orcontact ustoday to book your consultation.

Change your life today … Live, don’t just survive

At The Naked Gene Juggler, we appreciate that watching a loved one going through an eating disorder has a profound effect upon your life. We can help you with the many aspects that have impacted your life at an emotional, mental, psychological and social level.

Wherever you are in the cycle of your loved ones eating disorder, past or present, you can resolve the many stresses, anxieties and issues that you face on a day-to-day basis. You can break free from the legacy of this turbulent experience.

Take the opportunity to be the director of your own life

Find out how you can…

• Resolve your stresses and traumas surrounding YOUR experience of living with an eating disorder

• Start to live YOUR life again and rebuild your relationships

• Stop the nightmares, circular thinking and heightened levels of anxiety that prevent your life moving forwards

• Regain your confidence and sense of identity outside the constraints and dynamics of being a carer

• Rediscover your zest for life free from the impact of your loved one's eating disorder

If you have lost someone dear to you to their eating disorder, we can help you with the emotional and psychological scars that you carry. Find out how by visiting ourconsulting website, orcontact ustoday to book your consultation.